Thursday, May 16, 2013

UN-REALISTIC PLAYER PERCEPTIONS - Everyone should read this one


Interesting article by a former Prep School Coach at Westwind Prep.  Good Article for all parents, players and coaches.



UN-REALISTIC PLAYER PERCEPTIONS

The Fine Line Between Confidence and Self Perception



As I try to place good players in college programs, I find that often the players themselves can be their own worst enemy. Usually, that is my only obstacle. This year, it has been the transfer list too. Instead of simply needing to convince my players that the offer in front of them is a good one, that they'd be crazy to pass up despite the fact it is not the level they want, I am now dealing with a smaller window for true freshmen due to unhappy transfers leaving their current situations. I've come to the conclusion that the issues that I face with my own players are the same as those transfers are facing. The problem is self perception and an inability to see reality. The problems that come of this are two fold. First, it has created a log jam at the low major level as transfers who realized they can't play where they were try to drop to a smaller school, and as a result, are taking spots from those that are waiting until the spring to sign because they believe they are Division 1 players, and just need a shot at a small school. The low major schools get many more choices.

The problem has led me to this conclusion: Unrealistic self perception is an epidemic, a disease, a major problem. It is human nature to think that we are better than we actually are. Its natural to think that those who give us their honest opinion or evaluation, if its not what we want to hear, are 'haters' or don't believe in us. But what about this? What if they're right?

In my position, I have come to work with players who are "D1 focused." They're at prep school because they're "D1 Focused" and they "Just need to be seen." My natural response is, 'I'm sorry, but that's probably not going to happen.' Which is also why I'm not the best prep school recruiter. I believe that more players are flocking to Juco's and Prep Schools for one main reason. They 'know' they're good, they just haven't found the right person to agree with them. Parents are often biased in this way too, and shell out thousands of dollars to prep schools because they can't believe no one has 'discovered' how good their son is. Eventually, they find their way to a prep school (that has a good recruiter, unlike me), who tells them that their son is the greatest player they've ever seen, and is going to 'blow up' this year and get a D1 scholarship!!!!........ if you pay $15-25,000 dollars for one year of 'prep school.' What ends up happening is the schools that didn't recruit the 'hidden gem' are ultimately right, and that player finds themselves in the same position they were in before they shelled out all that money for prep school. That prep school recruiter? He pocketed your money and played with the guys that already have D1 offers. You sat on the bench all year. And you end up again with maybe a D2 or NAIA scholarship that they stick their noses up at because 'its not D1.' Thus, you get left with nothing.

Sound familiar? It happens all the time. This is because many prep schools make money based on the fact that you believe you are better than you actually are. My advice? Look at what you have in front of you. If you are a senior or a post grad and you have a scholarship offer, then be as grateful as is humanly possible and sign that letter of intent before someone else at your position does. You are getting a college education, for FREE. Take that, because it means you've used basketball the right way and will graduate with no debt. Not a bad deal. Otherwise, if you pass it up and pay for a 25k/yr prep school then you are letting adults who know better use basketball to use you for your parents' money.

Now, on to the transfers. If you do wait on a few smaller school offers and a big school offer comes in very late, then know this, you were not their first choice. They are taking a gamble on you, and if you don't work out, its not a big deal. Instead of playing right away at a smaller school, you will be sitting all year, using up eligibility as it becomes obvious you can't play at that level. Maybe you just needed to try, and using a year was worth that gamble. That's OK. I understand that. But if you're frustrated by the situation and believe that your coach doesn't believe in you, then you're starting the same cycle all over again. Please learn and go to the level you can play at. I recently had a former player transfer from a D2 and ask me to get him some D1 looks. Seriously? If you're not a D2 starter, averaging 20 points/gm, and you don't have D1's knocking down your door the second your transfer paperwork is in, then you can't transfer up. Generally, the rule is unless you are the league POY, then you transfer down, to where your real level is. And if you play marginal minutes as a freshman, perhaps your real level is right where you are.

As you can see, an unrealistic self perception can be a dangerous thing. Take a look in the mirror and realize that it is OK that your level isn't where you always hoped it would be. A college scholarship is a terrible thing to waste... take it from someone who is still paying his college off. Thinking you are better than you actually are, and being too stubborn to admit your level could end up costing you and your parents a lot of time, money, and positive memories. It could leave you bitter, and upset. Please be realistic, embrace what you have, and do your best to be the best wherever you are.

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